Dear Mommy of One…

You are amazing!!!

Truly!

I know you’re probably wondering why a mommy of six would think that you, a mommy of one, are amazing! But, it is so very, very true. The love and care and patience and joy you continually pour out for that one child is amazing.

Ariya's 1st birthday
Honestly, I’ve never really had the honor of being a mommy of one.
But, around this time every year, when our oldest kids get to spend a wonderfully blessed week at grandma and grandpa’s house- I get a glimpse into what being a mommy of one is like.

candle ice cream

And it is beautiful… hard… tiring… messy… and precious.

You still need to eat and bathe and cook and get your baby to sleep,
Pay bills, scrub toilets, change diapers, and do laundry.
Only you do it all without having helpers to keep
That little one from chewing holes in the bills,
Falling into the toilet,
Grabbing a fistful of poopy-ness,
And unfolding every piece of clothing.

messy Ariya
You get down on the floor reading books, playing games.
You have time; you can focus.
That little face is so precious, joy sparkles in their eyes.
But as the day goes on, you’re often left wondering…

Am I doing this right?
Is my child going to fail?
Why am I so tired?
Will this day last f-o-r-e-v-e-r?
Why can’t I be more like the mom down the block?
You know, the one with six kids, and six times the laundry!?

One thing you may not know,
Is she’s still wondering.
She is just as uncertain.
And needs to rely on God too.
Her days are not perfect
As she wades through laughter and tears.
She struggles for balance.
She is so much like you!

But, I know from my moments of being a mommy of one,
That although you are on demand constantly,
The minutes that fill every day can be oh- so very lllll…ooooooo…nnnnnnn…ggggggg!!!!!
And it’s easy to fill those moments with self,
Facebook and Pinterest and books gracing the shelf.
Yet, it’s easier still to think that your role as a mom
Is not as important with only one.

Do not, do not, do not, do not, do not believe that lie for one single moment!

You are training a child,
Molding his little heart,
Teaching her about Jesus,
Continually pouring out grace,
Learning God’s strength in your weakness.

Your role is important no matter the number!
God is using YOU, sweet mommy, to reach the heart of your child!

Ariya's ice-cream
{{I think you mommies of two, three, four, five, {six}, seven, eight… ten… twenty, are amazing too!}}

{Pictures are of my sweet Ariya’s birthday! when we got home from surprising Daddy at camp! :) }

Comments

  1. I love your heart! You are such a lovely encourager to mommas everywhere :)

  2. Bekafox9 says:

    Oh my. this is so beautiful. I just love your blog and your heart shines through FOR HIM! XOXO

  3. Love this!

  4. Thank you….i so needed to read this.

    Yup, i’m a Mommy of one!

  5. This mommy of 1 loves this post – thank you!

  6. So true! I really struggled with this thought when we had our Mj and were struggling with infertility. A lot of people would say, “He needs a sibling”, “You need to have another one to understand busy”. Just things people say without thinking or knowing that you’re struggling to have another child. Being a mommy of 1 or 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 or 6 is a blessing each in it’s own way! Thank you for this post! =)

  7. And YOU encourage my heart, Aurie! Thank you!!!

  8. Thank you so much for your kind words!

  9. Thanks, Kelly!

  10. YOU are amazing!!! :)

  11. Tiffany, thanks so much for sharing. I know the struggle and heart-ache that goes along with infertility is very real… and yes, the times when we put our foot in our mouths and cause wounds to deepen. You are so right, having children- no matter the number- is a blessing! I appreciate you!

  12. Ginger Hilson says:

    Love your posts and this one is no different! I’m not currently a mommy of one, but I was at one point (there is a 11.5 yr difference between my oldest and my second) and I think this message is just precious and fitting for all the mommies of one out there!

  13. Thanks, Ginger! Your words are so kind and encouraging!

  14. I’m about to be a mommy-of-one (well…in 9 more months!). This was a sweet post to read! Blessings to you.

  15. Aww the pictures of your daughter are just adorable! She looks about the same age as my Zoe who will be one in July 4th. Blessigs :) Lauren, lholmes79.wordpress.com

  16. How exciting that you will be a mommy of one soon! :) Congratulations!!!

  17. Thanks, Lauren! Oh, how I love that little girl. How fun that our girls are only a few weeks apart! :)

  18. Colleen says:

    This is SO beautiful!

  19. It’s posts like this one that make me want to be a better me. I know the only way is to fully trust in Him; ergo, I trust and get off this thing and try again to be a better wife and mommy to the ones He has blessed me with while I am here. To go in peace and grow into me. *big smile* Have a blessed day and thank you. Sincerely, Mommy of two growing blessings & so much more!

    • I am so thankful that God has not given up on us yet!! He works in our hearts, and uses us even with all our weaknesses. Your role as a mommy to those precious two is important and valued. May God continually pour out His grace in your precious family! Jessica

  20. Thank you for writing this. :) It’s so nice and refreshing to see a momma of many write to the mommas of one. I am a momma of two, but now a momma to one on earth. I can say from personal experience that have an only at home is much harder. During the day, I am his everything here on earth, and it’s very TIRING. Of course, I am ever so thankful I have him. :) Thank you for your kind heart!

  21. Samantha Constant says:

    I am a mommy of one. Doing the day to day task that god our father has for us. I’m a stay at home wife and mommy. God guides us everyday, whether it be a good or not so good day. It is nice to know there our other christian women who feel the same way. This is the first time I’ve been on your web site. It made me smile to hear your sweet words. May God continue to bless you and your family.

    • Samantha, It is such a blessing to meet you. Your encouragement touched my heart. Thank you! :)
      Praying for you and that dear little one of yours today!
      I look forward to getting to know you even more.
      ~Jessica

  22. Kassie Taylor says:

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