When Mommy is Tired (A Favorite…)

There’s been this much needed quiet in this online space. As I take a little more time to rest and breathe and live right where I’m at, I thought it’d be fun to share some of your favorites. And this one? Oh, I’m needing this reminder today. (Sent to you while hiding in my room with the clattering of pots and pans and someone banging feet all loud on the wall.) ~Jessica

Dear Tired Mommy,

So your kids have been plodding around the house since some ridiculous time this morning. (Thank you Day Light Saving Time for ending – SAID NO MOM OF YOUNG CHILDREN EVER! – except maybe for that Sunday when seventy-five percent of young families actually made it to church on time.)

From the first pitter-patter of feet you’ve juggled grumbling and pouring cereal and finding one more clean pair of pants bunched up behind the dresser. You’ve chased little people and cleaned up smeared apple sauce and refereed the bickering over whose toothbrush has the most toothpaste.

You’ve shampooed your hair four times in a row, because on your life you can’t remember if it’s already been washed.

When Mommy is Tired

You’ve helped her put her socks on without them feeling silly. You’ve cut off the crusts just like he likes them. You’ve swept up the crumbs and gotten dinner in the crockpot. You’ve bitten your tongue nearly raw from striving to pour grace instead of letting your temper flare ugly.

You’ve been serving and giving and praying and helping and changing and fixing and feeding and cleaning and teaching and working and disciplining and loving ALL-DAY-LONG!

There have been hundreds of questions to answer, and thousands of calls for food and for clean clothes and for stories to be read and for the missing pink marker which got thrown out because someone lost the lid yesterday.

And the loud tears and crumpling to the floor over the requirement of wearing pants by your little Houdini who kept escaping bed last night? You’re about to join her on the floor – but the tears will have to wait; right now you just need a pillow.

You are tired!

Maybe you were up with a newborn baby, with a sick child, calming from a bad dream, helping with schoolwork, cleaning up piles of Duplos, paying the bills, working when you’d rather be home or home when you’d rather be working or at home working – and now, now you’re just altogether exhausted.

sleeping Bella and Cappuccino

so tired

There are some days when we mamas need the encouragement to get out of bed. Sometimes the bravest thing we can do all day is to simply come out from under the warmth of the covers and step foot into a new day.

And other times?

Other times we’ve run ourselves so ragged that our eyes are closing and our pencils drooping while helping the third grader with math problems. We can’t keep our eyes open through the reading of Green Eggs and Ham. And even with coffee our heads are nodding and lanes are swerving as we’re driving under the influence of exhaustion.

Remember that time your sweet babe fell asleep in the middle of eating spaghetti!? She nearly woke when you snapped that picture of her sleeping in sauce. – That’s how we are. It’s just no longer quite so endearing.

so sleepy

Maybe, just maybe, you’re like me and you need to hear that it is okay to rest.

That it’s okay to turn off that smart phone, stop surfing the internet for the next greatest freezer meal, put that latest parenting book away, leave the mud prints trailing all over the floor, send kids to quiet corners or let them make their own secret hideouts with pillows and blankets and flashlights and books or stick them in front of their favorite Mickey Mouse video on replay if you have to – and go rest.

I hear that to-do list bubbling up inside of you. The excuses deafening. And maybe right now is simply not the time.

But if God himself showed us how to rest, and Jesus says to come and find rest, and if He truly made the wind and the waves be still – He can surely calm the storms looming as we lock ourselves in the closet with a Bible and a blanket.

Maybe it’s a twenty minute nap. Maybe it’s pretending that the time change hasn’t destroyed our schedule and going to bed an hour early. Maybe it’s moments stolen in quiet prayer and sweet Bible study. Probably it’s all three.

And maybe you’ll have to cancel appointments or be okay with eating take-out. Maybe you’ll need to call a babysitter or swap sleeping-in times with your husband. But those loved ones in your life will be so very grateful.

nap time

so very sleepy

ready for a nap

For when those little ones come all fancily dressed and ready for a tea-party – when she trips on the shoes with heels too high, and he spills the juice when she tips him right over – their eyes will grow wide and their once smiling faces will shrink back waiting to see your reaction.

You could be Ms. Tired Mommy who grumbles and grovels and says, “Clean up that mess right now! And no more tea parties EVER!”

-Or-

You could be Ms. Rested Mommy who dawns the role of the royal guest, curtsies and says, “Oh, Sir Son-of-Mine, thank you for breaking the fall of My Little Princess. Let’s mop it up and prepare for a tea party at the table!”

Oh, how I know you’d much rather train and build up, rather than crush and tear down. And it’s so much easier to do that when you’ve had adequate rest.

Don’t feel guilty! Your husband, and the precious heroes and princesses whose little eyes are watching your every move {as well as the rest of the drivers on the road :)} will be very thankful that you chose to rest! And, remember, Jesus took time to sleep and rest too!

Love,
Another Tired Mommy, who needs to go rest!

(Oh, and if you’re wondering – that’s our newest little “kitty” addition to the family, Cappuccino. Our kids sure love him and his sweet snuggles. I kinda do too.)

Dear Daughters – What I Want You to Know on Your 10th Birthday

Sure, your dad teases whenever our family tries to fit into a minivan that we’ll just have to get rid of one of you.

As if we could just rip the two of you apart – you who have shared a womb and a decade’s worth of memories strung together.

And your eyes dazzle at your ridiculously awesome daddy, for we all know that you’re not going anywhere.

The truth is we’d always choose you.

birthday girls

Again. And again. And again.

We’d go through the sickness and the weeks in the hospital, the countless diapers and carpet rubbed bare from walking circles with two babes snuggled close. We’d walk through the sleepless nights and mountains of laundry, the spit-up all over e-v-e-r-y t-h-i-n-g and getting peed on at 2am.

We’d battle the ten years of temper tantrums over tights and toys and sisters who always take your favorite shoes, the disobedience and the messes and the downright dirty glares. And we’d even straggle back through the days when parenting left us wounded and broken and fallen on our knees.

We’d always choose you.

beautiful birthday girls

beautiful Alyssa

beautiful Elliana

sweet birthday girls

You, with your beautiful hearts – your passion for God and love for others that runs so, so deep.

Despite our many mistakes, you have grown brave and tender, gracious and kind. You have touched our hearts and the hearts of so many others in ways we couldn’t ever have imagined possible.

What an honor to watch God shape your lives – to see Him in your tears and smiles.

Oh, what amazing things He is doing and is going to do in and through you as you keep seeking His face and trusting Him to walk each day with you.

We’ll always choose you.

love these birthday girls

Again. And again. And again.

Through failures and heartaches. Through laughter and dancing.

As you grow and search and try to find how to fit into your own skin.

Whether you travel to Africa to care for orphans, fly airplanes right up to the heavens, become a famous speaker proclaiming the good-news of Jesus, or quietly share the gospel right in your own home through poopy diapers changed and toilet bowls swished…

We’ll always choose you.

love these girls

Happy 10th Birthday, Alyssa Marie and Elliana Grace!
You will always be sweet reminders of the joy God brings as we look to Him, and of how He truly does answer our prayers!
Oh, how we love you!

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